The Challenges Of College Dating

So, you’re in college. In theory, you are
going there to get an education. In reality, you are also interested in
having a social life. Besides, you will have all kinds of single people
around your age as potential friends. With all of that, why is college
dating so challenging? Let’s look at some possible answers to this
important question.

Not to sound trite, but college students are going through a major
transition to total independence and adulthood. That alone is a huge
challenge. Plus, expectations are higher from the students themselves,
others around them, as well as what’s expected academically. While some
college students are teenagers, they are also adults by most measures.
On top of all of this, college students are away from long-held
relationships they have formed. Family, team mates, friends,
acquaintances and girlfriends and boyfriends are usually left behind
once the student is in college.

Just how daunting is it to deal with these personal, physical, emotional
and academic changes? College can be quite intimidating, especially for
students who are attending school far from home. Moving not only means
the loss of relationships, but also leaving behind their usual emotional
support system, whether family, friends or place of worship. All of
these new expectations and experiences only make college dating more
complicated. Add to that the fact that almost everybody at any given
college come from different backgrounds. That results in there being
less common ground on which to connect with and build upon.

One thing to keep in mind about dating in college is to not approach it
in an overly-serious manner. There is already more than enough serious
things to deal with for any college student, dating doesn’t have to be
another. Now, that’s not saying you shouldn’t date at all, or avoid any
sort of romance. That’s not the point.

Instead, try to focus on the enjoyment of getting to other people. Take
the emphasis off of finding a serious relationship, and just try to make
friends. Think of it as another way to share the experience of college
with someone else. You may want to try dating those in the same classes
as you, as there will be some level of shared common interest. This will
also help to keep your comfort level in check, and make it feel a lot
less challenging.

There is no reason why college dating has to be hard if you know the
best way to approach it. All new college students will face new
challenges, but dating doesn’t have to be one of them. Go into it with
the right attitude, without putting pressure on you or your date for
anything too serious. However, if things go well, then by all means
continue to let things progress naturally. Many people have met their
current spouses when they were in college. If it happens, that’s great!
But don’t go out on dates with the thought of finding a marriage
partner. Just enjoy being with somebody and let things happen as they
may.

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